7 telltales cheating signs

Do you see a sign of a cheating man?

7 Telltale Signs That Your Partner May Be Cheating and How to Solve Them by Dr Rajgopal. V

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There is nothing like an ideal marriage! Period. Blatant statement?? Think again. There are statistics to prove that 15% of wives and 25% of husbands have had sex outside marriage. If it includes emotional affairs or sexual intimacies without sex add a further 20% to these numbers. What are the warning signs that your partner may be cheating on you? What are the Solutions?

Are you confident that the element of cheating is not there in your married life? Think twice. If statistics are to be believed a high percentage of men and women are prone to be unfaithful to their respective partners. In most cases the partners just do not go out and cheat. There are telltale warning signs and paying attention to these signs can save a marriage from doom.

1. Crying out for help: The first and foremost warning is when a partner tells that something is amiss in the relationship and the other partner refuses to believe it. Statements like "I am not happy" or "This marriage is not working" is a clue. Solution: To save the marriage when such a situation arises open up a dialogue and if this does not work consider a couples therapy.

2. Sudden change or interest in appearance: Is your man keen on eliminating his wrinkles or getting rid of his fat? Or is your wife suddenly keen on coloring her hair or wearing a low-waist jeans? These are signs of prowling. Solution: If you are keen that this is just a change and no one else is involved, why not join in and spice up the relationship?

3. Unwarranted criticism: If your partner makes statements like "You need to see a psychiatrist", "You need to go to the gym", Get a job", "Lose weight" and is constantly critical to make you feel that you are worthless then this is a sure sign of something fishy. If your partner picks up a fight over something which you are good at then this is another sign. Solution: Listen and learn. Encourage the partner to talk more because the other partner will feel that you understand. If a man says "Those two women are good", encourage him to talk about them and limit his action to words.

4. Guilt gifts: Is your partner lavishing you with valuable gifts? Is it a diamond necklace, a sporty car or an expensive mink shawl? It might tempt you to think - "He just gifted me this expensive thing so he cannot be cheating". You will be fooled. Solution: Nip it in the bud. If you want to be successful in saving the relationship identify potential problems early and nip the problem in the bud. Do not turn the other cheek.

5. Getting snubbed at a company party. If the colleagues have an inkling about the extra-marital affair the chances are that you will get snubbed as you are "on the way out". Or you have been criticized by your partner to such an extent that people think you are worthless. Solution: Grab the bull by the horns. Without making any excuses, open up lines of communication and address the issue as soon as you notice anything unusual.

6. Sneaking. If your partner picks up a call from his or her cellphone and talks out of your earshot or if he or she goes missing out on various nights of the week this is a definite sign of cheating. Solution: Confrontation. Just be more assertive and ask "What's going on here?". If need be you can even check cellphone call logs to get definite proof.

7. History: As they say history repeats itself. If the person has a documented history that in itself can be a warning sign. Of course people change over time but you cannot ignore the past. Solution: Set boundaries. If you feel comfortable discuss with your partner about the limits that he or she can go in relationships outside of marriage.

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About the Author

I am a medical doctor with a passion for writing. I love to write on subjects like sexuality, relationships and medicine.